By Anna Ottolino

A while back I came across the quote below:

“Pain travels through family lines until someone is ready to heal it in themselves. By going through the agony of healing, you no longer pass the poison chalice onto the generations that follow. It’s incredibly important and sacred work.”

Very powerful words! Ever since I read this quote, I see examples of passed down pain in friends, clients, family and of course in myself and have been pondering the healing process…So where do we go from here? How do we actually heal? Here’s what I came up with from help from teachers, friends, and much thought and reflection.

For one…we meditate! Meditation seems too abstract a concept to have a definitive effect especially when there are so many different techniques, but in general, we are watching our thoughts and letting them go and in the process learning about ourselves as we observe what it is that comes up to the surface as we meditate.
Consistent meditation practice will change your brain.
Anthony William, the Medical Medium says “Meditation rewires your consciousness for peace and peace brings healing.” Our very own Bhante Sujatha calls this cultivating the mind.
So step one…make meditation a daily practice even if it’s for a few short minutes.

2. If we can look at people who have caused us pain and suffering through a lens of love and compassion and realize that their hurtful actions have been passed down to them by their own painful experiences and through generations and generations, we can start to see them as wounded souls instead of as perpetrators. This realization can help us to release anger. As Buddha says, holding on to anger is like holding on to hot coals and expecting the person you are angry with to get burned…so, how’s that working for us?
If we look at it this way, we can also remind ourselves that we are not at fault for others hurting us but we are responsible for putting an end to the cycle. Another great quote I saw recently says: “If you don’t heal from what harmed you, you will bleed on people who didn’t cut you.”
Practice love and compassion towards yourself and others especially those most difficult in your life! That’s where amazing healing starts and continues. (Remember! Being loving and compassionate does not mean making yourself a doormat…if you are practicing those same qualities towards your self you will have loving boundaries)

Lastly, Gratitude! Practice gratitude every day and in as many moments in the day, you can. Just like complaining is a habit that turns you into a complainer; gratitude is a practice that makes you Grateful. At first, it may feel forced and fake but true gratitude comes with practice and true healing with following.

Thank you so much for reading this far. I must thank my teacher Bhante Sujatha for his teachings and I don’t think it’s a coincidence that as I left to teach this morning with this theme in my notebook I opened his Morning Coffee Wisdom email and it read:
“Everything is connected. Be a strong and beautiful link in the chain of life, until you are ready to let go completely.”

Anna teaches a Level 1-2 class every Tuesday at 9:15 am at Total Body Yoga. You can learn more about Anna on her website Her teacher, Bhante Sujatha, is a regular presenter at Total Body Yoga. Bhante will be leading an event called Meditation for Depression on Sunday, September 15th, 2019. Register on our event page.